We make compromises our whole life, But we depend on an other person for the compromise to work. I'll do this if you do that, I get this if you get that, I bring this if you get that and so on. Every one every where has to compromise some time in their life, but you need some one to say I like that compromise.
Dancing Diva has been in a pickle trying to decide what she wanted to do. She has been dancing since she has been 7 at the same studio. She has gone from dancing just to dance to competing on a team. She loves her studio and would never hear of going some where else. She has been part of the team since age 8. She has worked her way through duos, trio's and solo's. This is where I thought it would be a one year thing and she would be done, I couldn't have been more wrong
Studio life has not always been easy, girls clash, gossip and sometimes down right mean girls, but you have that every where and it has they learn to cope is how they will endure.
I must admit dancing diva has a lot on her plate, she always has, She traded pageants for dance and has never regretted that choice she made, I am a firm believe that my children should decide what they want to do. She has always loved the stage in any venue so this was an easy compromise.
But it has not always been an easy road, Dancing Diva has also played softball since the age of 5 so to say she has two loves is an understatement. To say she is better at one then the other just can not be done. She is equally as good in both. So we compromised and just let her dance did not even try to get her on a traveling team because we new something would suffer at that young age. So we compromised and put softball on the slow track,.
She would stay and play rec ball in order to stay focused on dance. But we knew that was a talent being waisted. But it was what she decided to do. It was easy sailing for a couple of years, Till we hit the middle school age and grade 6. Then it became harder for her to resit things. She joined the school dance team, so we had regular dance, middle school dance. Then she found her third passion more compromising and these were not easy to figure out. Diva found hurdles in track, okay we said run track that is something you said you wanted to do. I thought she wouldn't like it and maybe she wouldn't have what it took to do this. I couldn't have been more wrong again this child excelled in a different sport.
When all was said and done this child was ranked 5th in her school conference. And this is where the word compromise comes in a big way. Since she was ranked high she needed to run in the district sectional race which determines who goes to state. But slight problem the weekend is so booked, Law student was graduating from Purdue on that Friday, Sectionals was on Saturday along with mandatory rehearsal for the dance recital, then Business student was graduating high school on that Sunday the day of the recital.
So I am trying to think of all kinds of compromises for her to do, I had informed the dance studio months in advance that this was going to happen, and had wanted to figure out how to do it all. I had asked if diva could dance in the second half of the program so after business students graduation we would race her over to the venue. Track we had asked and were granted permission for her to not ride the bus and we would deliver her to that venue after driving all night back from Indiana and law students graduation. This was granted so one down and Diva happy.
The dance studio denied that compromise and for the first time since she started she was not in the recital. She was devastated, and crushed. So it was a busy weekend but we succeeded in doing and making everything with time to spare, but no dance.
Fast forward to 7th grade. Same predicament just no graduations, I again go to the studio to ask for compromise as this year she is ranked 3rd in the conference. I go to the Studio owner and explain every thing again and how she will miss mandatory dress rehearsal but will be at the recital. Well I can tell you that went over like a lead balloon. But again it was the only way we had.
So being on our vacation she had time to access her goals and what she wanted to do. Because over the last year she added ASA softball to her schedule. She had decided that maybe this was too much for her, she would have to dance 3 hours 2x a night, then practice her solo, then track and she wants extra training to make State this year and softball. Thats a lot when you are 13 and plus stay on the honor roll. As much as it killed and pained her she was willing to drop dance for a year. But I knew deep down it would break her heart and she would regret that choice.
So I approached the studio with a huge compromise, Only Take ballet and jazz, drop regular company, pick up hip hop company, and her solo, that would cut her requirements down and she would still dance. I wouldn't buy costumes for recital and there for not conflict with conference this year for no recital and she wouldn't be missed because she wouldn't be in those dances.
So we will see if this helps and relieves some of her stress and tension. So she can still dance, play softball, and run track., I just know that next year as she becomes a freshman this will all change and she will be harder to find compromises for.
Oh yeah she starts with a catching coach this week.
Oh when do I get a compromise
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